It’s almost three years since dad passed away. I can’t believe how fast time runs.
My brother is almost 30 now. He was hesitant to get married since he has been our bread winner. After a year of long struggling with my eldest brother convincing him to get married, he finally agreed!! We told him about almost 15 girls from outside the family and inside the family. However, none was appealing to him!!
I felt that he had someone in mind but he kept on denying it!! It was 2 weeks ago when my eldest sister had a long chat with him about getting married. She mentioned the name of a girl accidentally but told him that we “his sisters” won’t agree on her!!
She said he was shocked and wanted to know the reasons of our refusal. I will tell you the reasons now. The girl he has in mind has a sister who was supposed to get married two weeks after dad passed away. During the funeral, everyone was devastated enough to talk about anything at all especially that my dad is the uncle for most of my family memebers.
My mom recieved a call a week later where she was told that my cousin is getting married!! Couldn’t they wait until at least 30 days pass
for God’s sake!! He is her uncle!! How rude they are!!
Mom was shocked enough to understand whatever was going on that time. She later discovered that she gave them her blessings thinking that it won’t happen anytime sooner!! What shocked us more and created this BIG gab between my family members and us is the role of my uncles and ants!!
The eldest is the one whose daughter was getting married!! The 2nd went for his vacation in Turkey with all his family members!! Two of my aunts went to the beauty shop and dressed up with their msot expensive dresses to attend the wedding though they are OLD with married kids!! MY youngest aunt went for a scholarship.
Where was that role of mom’s supportive brothers and sisters back then!! Weren’t they considered siblings when it was a wedding cermony!! Was it only appearances!! Where was my eldest uncle when he was supposed to stay by mom’s side!! Dancing and celebrating his daughter’s marriage!! Couldn’t he even delayed it a month or two more!! Not for our sake but for his sister’s God damn it!!
Almost three yeas passed with us being almost seperated from our family. That was the reason I couldn’t attend any of their wedding cermonies. No, it was because I caouldn’t see them feeling happy when I am still burning inside!!
I don’t know why I drifted into all of these when I was gonna talk about something cheerful on the way. Nevermind, I guess I am clearing all of what was gathered and accumulated inside me.
So, the girl my brother wants to get married to is the sister of the girl who got married two weeks after dad passed away. Why was he silent all the time and refusing to marry? It’s because he saw his future wih her and since he knew all of that inside our hearts, he couldn’t utter a word.
When I heard the news that he wants to marry her, I wasn’t shcoked!! I have told my mom and sisters earlier that he wants to marry THIS girl. They were all like NO WAY and we don’t wanna have their girl after what happened.
When we knew that he has this girl in mind, things changed. It was my turn to give my opinion . From my own perspective, the girl is awesome. I have known her all my life since she and her eldest sisters WERE my intimate friends and I used to spent nights and days at their house. However, everything shattered after what happened.
So, the girl is amazing but the problem is her family. Her dad is the person who is supposed to be called UNCLE. Her mom is one of the greatest women I have ever seen. So, where is the problem!!? It’s the wound that is still bleeding in our hearts since what occured.
Everybody seemed half projecting but I wasn’t. I hate when kids are being judged due to something their parents did!! That’s foolish and we are all educated enough to understand that it wasn’t her fault!! What would she have done that time? NOTHING!!
We live in a male dominant society. Women here have no opinion whatsover when it comes to marriage. If my cousin objected on the wedding day, no one would have ever listened to her even her groom. Three years passed, family bonds are getting loose every minute, so, enough with the crap I said!! God forgives his sinnest creatures, why can’t we when we are only SLAVES!!
Two of my sisters were in denial but I asked them not to interfere since it’s my brother’s choice and his awaitening future. So, I could see a glimpse of happiness entering our house soon ;D
My mom called the girl’s mother who was extremely delighted. She said she won’t have a better proposal ever but she has to take the girl’s opinion. I am not saying this because he is my brother but as a guy, he has everything a girl could dream of. I am positive that she will give her YES but like any girl out there, she has to be shy and give her answer in a week or two.
I am happy for both. Moreover, I am happy to see us connected as a family again. What happened is past and past can never be restored again. We are tomorrow’s children 😉
See ya soon